Stop Trying To “Become” Another Version Of Yourself. Home Back To HER Instead.

Ever since I can remember, I’ve had big dreams.

Dreams about building a home close to nature, a relationship where I felt truly seen and loved, and a business of my own that was fulfilling, but flexible enough to allow me to be fully present to take care of my future family.

Since I was a teenager, I found myself working for those goals and holding myself to high standards.

By the time I graduated from college years later, I realized that to achieve those goals, I needed to become my best version.

I needed to become confident, disciplined, strong, and healthy.

And so I did it all—consistent workouts, daily meditation, endless self-improvement books, and planners and schedules that filled my desk.

On paper, everything looked perfect.

But I still had this feeling that I wasn’t making progress, that I was stuck.

That despite all my years of effort, the girl I was was still a smaller version of my true potential. There was a mismatch between the woman I dreamt about being and who I was in real life.

Then, life put me through deep pain.

I met the love of my life, and it was way more than I ever dreamt.

It was beautiful.

Soon after we started our relationship though, I felt like a big wave came and crushed me.

I was so seen, safe, loved, and connected to someone for the first time in my life that it brought to light all my flaws and wounds.

And it showed in my relationship.

We had an issue, and I was hurting him with my actions.

I was hurting myself too.

I was sabotaging myself and our relationship.

I quit my translation job, I stopped writing content.

I was anxious, overwhelmed, and crying non-stop.

Like the time I cried because it was raining and I couldn’t go for a walk.

I didn’t understand what was happening.

I was lost.

Life forced me to wake up.

I thought I was fine during all those years trying to “become” the best version of myself, but turns out I was deeply wounded.

I was navigating life through the lens of my trauma.

I realized I wasn’t seeing things for what they were because my beliefs and the stories I had been telling myself for more than 20 years were wrong.

The real reason I wasn’t making progress towards building my dream life wasn’t that I wasn’t capable, or that I just needed to give it more time…

The real reason is that I was in my own way.

My core problem is that I didn’t see myself, love myself, or feel safe within myself.

And that alone stopped me from reaching my goals and being who I wanted to be.

It kept me people-pleasing because I was too scared to be authentic.

It kept me ignoring my emotions and letting my perfectionism and self-doubt run the show.

But you know what?

As chaotic as that season of my life was, I still believed in myself. I still knew that wasn’t truly me.

And I never gave up. I kept trying and showing up every day.

Everything changed when I stopped trying to think my way out of things and stopped resisting the pain and the discomfort and finally started listening to my body.

That’s what somatic healing is. It’s learning to pay attention to the physical signals your body is already sending you.

And so that’s what I did.

I stopped all the plans I had.

I stopped trying to build a business.

I removed everything from my life that wasn’t essential, and I focused entirely on my healing.

The next few months were very challenging, but it also felt like I was coming home.

As I was healing my childhood and teenage wounds, rewiring my beliefs, and releasing tons of stuck emotions in my body…

I started discovering parts of myself with immense power.

I found that authentic, confident, and capable woman I’ve always known I had within myself.

I got in touch with a sense of creativity and joy that I didn't remember ever experiencing before.

I felt so peaceful.

The outside world started aligning with the “new” strong foundation I had built inside myself.

My boyfriend and I healed our relationship and started building our life together, and I started building a business that is fully aligned with my soul, my vision, and my purpose.

Then, one day, it finally clicked, I never had to “become” another version of myself during all of those years.

I just had to come back home to my true self—to HER, the original version of myself fully connected to my soul and my power.

This became my core philosophy.

Homing is not a retreat into the past, but into the depth of what’s inside you.

Homing is about peeling all the layers of the armor you had to build to survive, and uncovering the blueprint of the woman you were always meant to be.

I also remember that when I started my homing journey, I was terrified of putting aside my “growth” and my efforts to become a better version of myself.

But what I was missing is that the “becoming” journey I was on had me feeling like I was always not enough or I was not there “yet”.

It felt like I was on a treadmill I could never catch up to.

You see, the self improvement market tells you to add more strategies, titles and habits to a version of yourself that is not even truly you.

That’s why it never works or lasts.

Instead, when you start homing, you reclaim the buried potential that is already waiting inside you, and you start building from there.

And it’s not complicated at all.

I know you feel like you don’t have any time to go and home back to HER because you are already exhausted, and on top of that, you have an endless to-do list and people who need your attention.

But you wouldn’t believe me if I told you that the reason you’re so busy and exhausted is exactly because of that…

Because you’re disconnected from HER.

Every task requires more effort and willpower because all your powers are locked.

And yes, you do have infinite power and capability.

The fact that you feel stuck in a version smaller than your potential is the signal that HER is within you and trying to get out.

You know why?

Because HER is the one bold enough to dream big in the first place.

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P.S If you liked what you just read or felt like I was talking directly to you…

Or want guidance on how to start your journey home back to HER…

I’m currently building a community for women creatives & entrepreneurs who feel disconnected from themselves and stuck in a version of themselves that is smaller than their potential.

There, my mission is to make your path to home back to HER fun, practical, and structured, so you can lead your life and your projects from a place of full alignment and using all your power.

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Thanks for being here, and for taking the time to read.

-Carolina.